science/PETSc: upgrade to 3.26.0 and add dependencies for Code_Aster

Recent Code_Aster recommand these options:

• HPDDM
• SLEPc (math/slepc) but problem of circular dependency
• SuperLU (math/superlu)
• hypre (science/hypre)
• ml (ML, trilinos-ml: science/trilinos)

. trilinos-ml is deprecated

	  see https://github.com/trilinos/ML

. Trilinos is not supported

	  see https://gitlab.com/petsc/petsc/-/work_items/1943

• sowing (textproc/sowing)

Also replace BLAS + BLIS by OpenBLAS,

• use MPI helper,
• don’t build in debug mode by default,
• fix graphical tests.

PR: 299017
Approved by: yuri (maintainer)