textproc/apache-solr: use sockstat instead of lsof

While starting solr it is using now sockstat and can detect now if the start
was successful.

The patch is also provided upstream here:
https://github.com/apache/solr/pull/2906

Thanks a lot freebsd@koenigbj.8bx.de to provide with the required sockstat
parameters to make this PR possible.

PR: 283270